Dream big, then scale back! This is your chance to make something uniquely yours. At the start - go big on ideas. As things move forward, you can adjust these ideas to the budget, zoning, time frame, land, and other realities.
Separate the "needs," "wants," "dreams," and "don't want." Note which rooms are most important to you. In other words, what would you prioritize if it came down to it? Rank your desired features in order of importance. Prices can vary greatly on custom homes, and this will help you make difficult choices later on. Play the "what if" game. Prepare for the fact that some things may not go your way. Ask yourself: "What if XYZ happens?" What is your next choice/option?
Collect pictures of things you like (and don't like). Websites like Pinterest and Houzz are great places to start. You can also collect clippings from magazines such as Home + Gardens and Architectural Digest. Ask yourself, is there anything specific about your current home that simply doesn't work for you?
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